Today’s AWAP Wednesday video is all about the power of maybe. It’s difficult to figure out how to craft a social life when you have chronic illness; “maybe” can sometimes release a little of the pressure.

Watch now for some tips on how to use “maybe” to improve your social life:

*AWAP = As Well As Possible

Now it’s your turn:

Have you said “maybe” lately? Are you challenged by social situations and how to say yes, no or maybe? I’m ready to hear it ALL. Join the conversation in the comments below, share your experience and ask for advice from our community.

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Until we meet again: Be AWAP! Smooches!


 

(Rough) transcript:

Yes? No? Maybe! I think you’ve gotta welcome more “maybe” into your life, and today, I’m gonna tell you why.

Hi! I’m Jenni Prokopy of ChronicBabe.com and today is AWAP Wednesday (that stands for As Well As Possible). Each week, I offer you my favorite tips and techniques to help you craft an incredible life beyond illness. Yes! I know you can.

As a strong woman, I like to be declarative. I like to say YES and NO a lot, and I usually try to avoid maybe, because it feels a little… wishy-washy.

But there’s one area of my life where I’ve learned to embrace the maybe. And that’s when it comes to planning social gatherings with friends and family.

When we’re sick and have unpredictable symptom flare-ups, we may be disinclined to say “yes” to social gatherings, for fear of canceling last minute and dashing everyone’s hopes of hanging out with us. We may be in people-pleasing mode and don’t want to disappoint or anger folks.

But here’s the truth: You are not in charge of other people’s feelings. They are entitled to feel disappointed or sad if you have to cancel—after all, you’re bummed too, right? So you can understand how they feel. Still: It is not your job to make them feel OK about you being sick. They are in charge of their own feelings. Don’t be a people pleaser!

You may not want to say “no” to invitations either—even if you’re not that into the event—because you don’t want to seem antisocial. But saying “yes” just to keep up appearances isn’t doing anyone any favors—especially if you have to cancel on something you weren’t even interested in. Ugh! Double bummer.

Starting TODAY, you’ve gotta start saying “maybe.” If your reality is that your health is somewhat unpredictable, you’ve got to accept that and work with what you’ve got.

The next time someone invites you to an awesome-sounding girls night out, tell them “maybe.” Explain that you are excited about the possibility, and you’ll do your very best to get there, but that you might not make it because of health issues… and if not, that you’ll look forward to the next event.

Keep your explanation brief and upbeat. You’re setting expectations, making sure your friends know you dig their company, but that you also want to be realistic. Saying “maybe” gives you room to clearly assess your interest and ability to attend, on that date—YOU are empowered to make the choice, and you’re not driven by other people’s opinions and feelings—and that rocks.

This way, if you make it—hooray! Everyone’s happy. And if you can’t make it, there’s not a HUGE let-down because of a cancelation. You’re teaching your friends that you’re an enthusiastic pragmatist, and that you try your hardest. I think when you’re honest and vulnerable like this, there’s potential for your relationships to get stronger, even if you miss some of that hang-time.

No matter what, it sucks to miss a cool event or some fun hang-time with your best friends. But it sucks a little less if there’s no “cancelation drama” because you said “maybe.”

Do you agree? Give me a thumbs-up if you’re a fan of “maybe!”

Thanks for watching today! If you’ve got a story about “maybe” or any other experience in attending and canceling events, head over to the blog at ChronicBabe.com to join the conversation—I want to hear what YOU have to say.

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Until we meet again, be AWAP! Smooches!